The Heart Finally Figured Out

Aaaaaaand we're back. With more insights into things we already know. What's on today's program, you ask? Well folks, today I discuss the Heart. If it wasn't needed for super important functions like providing 'dup dup' noises for medical scenes and horror scenes in movies, I'd say the heart is as useless as well, fingernails. I mean seriously, what on earth are fingernails for?

But no, the heart really is important. O.O Keeps you alive and shit.

So yes the heart. Tricky little bugger. Do we listen to it? Do we not listen to it? When do we listen to it? Are we supposed to listen to it in the first place? So, so many questions but I think I've got it figured out. I think. So here's my tips to living with your Heart.

Basically, think of it as a child. As your child. Then everything will fall into place. Unless of course you're one of those parents (or would be parents) who'd pamper and spoil your children. 

Tip #1

Never give your heart everything it wants, only what it needs.

- Children have a knack of wanting everything attractive they see. If its marketed well, if it looks good, they must have it. But do we give it all to them? No. Of course we'll give them some of the things they ask, but only the ones that are somewhat beneficial to them. And then some. The same goes with the heart. It'll want everything attractive it sees. Whether its a thing like a fancy car or pretty jewellery, or even a handsome man or a beautiful lady. Don't let it have them all. Practice the same discipline you would on your child. Give it what it needs. If the fancy car's going to take up a substantial amount of your income each month, say no. If you're not going to wear the pretty jewellery more than a couple of times, say no. If the handsome man or beautiful lady has potential to somehow hurt you in the end, say no. Splurge if you must sometimes but not on something that will do more damage than good.

Tip #2

Nourish the heart 3 times a day.

- You feed your children 3 times a day, right? A hearty breakfast to start the day, an energy packed lunch to keep the stamina going and a wholesome dinner to replenish all that lost energy. Do the same with the heart. Practice 3 things a day that you feel will keep you light hearted and motivated. Here are some examples:

~ Tell yourself you're going to have a good day today when you wake up

~ Brisk walk for about 15 to 30 minutes

~ Meet up with friends

~ Hug someone

~ Have and complete simple daily goals

~ Laugh

~ Smile

~ Take a moment to just relax and do nothing (JUST a moment)

~ Talk your problems to someone (keep your heart worry free or it'll cloud your judgements)

Tip #3

Know your friends

- Parents tend to know who their children's friends are. You wouldn't want them mixing with the wrong crowd that will influence them and undo all the splendid work you've already done. Keep the same attitude with your heart. Fill your space with positive minded people. People with energy and are goal-driven. When you mix with people like these, you tend to adopt their characteristics too. And when you're positive, energetic and goal-driven, your heart will make all the right decisions. I'm not telling you to dump friends who have problems. These friends you have keep closer. Let them be your reality check about what can happen when you give your heart too much leverage. Don't use them solely for this of course. Make use of your heart to give them good advise. Advise that you know will work to make their lives better and to cope with whatever it is they are facing.

Tip #4

Encourage team work

- Children are often shy and so parents take this as their cue to introduce them to other kids. Ever notice how when a group of children get together, they're not all doing the same thing. Everyone's got their own little job in the group. Whether its passing the ball, clearing the way for another kid in their team to win the game or even just coming up with an idea for what to do or play and how. In the same way, let your heart work with your other organs, i.e. your brain. Its not just a piece of jelly taking up space in your head. The brain tends to give very logical advice, so let the heart work with these narrowed-down advise to come up with something that's a little more feelings-conscious. You can never go wrong when you let your heart and brain work out the best thing you should do in any given situation.

So there you go. The My heart all figured out while stuck in a pointless traffic jam at 8 in the morning. I hope you find bits and pieces from this that you can use for your heart too. Essentially I think its impossible to not listen to your heart at all. So treat it like a child. Every now and then they tend to come up with surprising and really cool insights on things. Let your heart do the same. Don't spoil it.

Help your heart help you.

Closure

I have found closure.

I Forgive You
by David Munoz

They may call me crazy
They may think I'm insane
How could I forgive you
For causing me all this pain

You knew that I loved you
You knew that I cared
Maybe that's the reason
Maybe you're just scared

Maybe I pushed too hard
Maybe we went too fast
Maybe that's the reason 
That our love didn't last

Or maybe it wasn't me
Maybe it was just your game
Just playing with my heart
Causing me worlds of pain

But there's something that's not a maybe
Something that I know is true
Its something that I owe you
And its a big "Thank You"

Thank You for giving me Happiness
Thank You for giving me Love
Thank You for being my Angel
The one God sent from Above

Thank You for showing me Life
Thank You for opening my Eyes
Thank You for supporting Me
Thank You for staying by my Side

And all of these things
They all come from you
So my Angel, Thanks...
And I forgive you.

The Waiting Game

There’s a saying, “If you love someone, let them go, if they love you, they’ll come back”. I found this VERY disturbing. How long exactly are we supposed to wait? Is there a benchmark of some sort? Is there a maximum time limit? What if you end up waiting your whole life only to find out they’re not coming back? Or what if you wait too short a time and they do return, only to find you in the arms of someone else?

So the question here is, do we wait? And if so, HOW LONG?!

Usually, and I mean usually, I would just opt to not wait. I mean, why wait for someone who decided to leave you at a time you maybe needed them most? If they could actually do that, then they’re not at all worth waiting for. There’s a billion other people out there all waiting for someone to show up in their lives. Why not be their someone? Why wait for the one who, at the moment, isn’t entirely sure whether or not they want to be with you. Or maybe who at the moment has other more important things to worry about? I sometimes think its stupid for a person to want to wait for someone. Its almost like saying, you’re waiting for a dearly departed to return from their eternal slumber. Let’s say you do wait, and wait and wait and wait. And then what? Wait some more? While the other is free to go out and venture on other things? Other persons maybe? You’ll only be forcing yourself to a life of sleepless, tear-filled nights and endless torment. Hoping and praying for the day they ‘come back’. There is of course the alternative outcome, and that is, that this person actually does come back for you. Then you’ll both spend the rest of lives together, knowing you’ve conquered the worst possible test a couple could ever encounter. And that my friends, is true love.

Then again, what if you’re at a situation where you REALLY, HONESTLY love this person, and you KNOW for a fact that this person loves you too? And that the only reason they’re ‘leaving’ is because they’ve been forced to due to undesirable circumstances? Then what? Do you wait for each other? For that moment where you both run drunkardly into each other’s arms and pick up where you left off? I mean, what if here you decide to not wait? What if while they were gone, you started to fall for another person? Someone who this time really wants to be with you and has no intentions of leaving you like your previous other? And then only to suddenly hear a soft knocking on your door followed by a visual of the eyes you once fell in love with. Past memories and emotions suddenly fill your mind and heart. But wait, what about the one waiting for you inside? Do you go back to that one? Or do you leave with this one and reignite that old fire that has been reduced to a mere waning flame? Either way you choose, you’re going to definitely feel guilty.

So back to my original question. If the situation ever arises, heaven forbid, do we wait or not? In my opinion, its totally up to you. Ha ha I know, but don’t move just yet. =D I think, you should totally wait if you’re absolutely, a hundred per cent sure that this person is going to come back for you in the NEAR future (near being 5 – 6 months tops). Life is short. Don’t waste it by playing this ‘waiting game’. It’s better spent on yourself. If you think this person’s not sure about getting back to you, move on! Go find someone else. Odds are, you will. And if the previous comes back looking for you, explain your situation and wish them well on their way. I’m not saying its going to be easy but hey, you gotta do what you gotta do, right?

Life is all about making choices. And it doesn’t matter if it’s the right or wrong choice. Really. It doesn’t. What matters most is what you make of it. Do what you want and only what you want. And then take full responsibility of the outcomes. And so, I leave you with this quote by a famous blogger, Paulo Coelho, “Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering”.

So wait or forget? I know what I’m going to do. What about you? =D