Movies, book, songs etc. always makes it seem as if happiness is a definite thing or something you might find at the end of a long time struggle. Even people always say "Oh, don't worry, you might be feeling this way now but it'll all go away soon enough and then you'll be happy." Really? Will I? Will it all just 'go away'? Or is happiness just something temporary? Like every other thing life has to offer? Is happiness really something where when you get it, you have it till the day you die?
What I think is that happiness comes and goes like the wind. You're never always struggling and neither will you always be happy. And it has absolutely nothing to do with your horoscope either. I'm sorry to say that but it just doesn't. The only thing that determines how happy you will be or how long you will be depends on the kind of decisions you choose to make in different but ordinary situations. If you would rather just sit in wallow in self-pity, even a blind man could see how happy you are or will ever be.
Then again, nobody is perfect and nobody makes the right decisions all the time. In the first place, there's is no right or wrong decision. Different decisions give different results, some better than the other. The point is, happiness really isn't something we were meant to pursue. It's more of something we should maintain. It has always been there staring at us. It could just slap us in the face and we would still not know about it! Some of us are just a bit blur that way, I guess. We should take advantage of the situation that's bringing us down instead of letting the situation take control over us.
Last Saturday at mass (at SFA, man I love that church!), the priest gave this story about this girl, Alice.
"One day, Alice was complaining to her dad about some problems she was facing. Being a chef, he then led her to the kitchen to try to calm her down using food. He put 3 pots of water onto the stove and started boiling them. In one pot, he put carrots, in the other eggs and in the third ground coffee. After about half an hour or so, he scooped out the carrots. He showed Alice how soft they had become. He explained to Alice that the water symbolized the problem.
After being in the water, the carrots became very soft and fell apart easily. He added that we should not let the problem turn us soft or gullible (or something like that..). Then he took out the eggs. He showed Alice how hard the eggs had become. He said that sometimes our problems turn our hearts hard. So much so it becomes hard for us to accept differences or to set aside our differences. Again, we should not let the problem do this to us. Finally he poured a little of the coffee into a cup and gave it to Alice. He said that we should be like the coffee. Although the problem did change us a little, we took advantage of the problem and turn it around to suit us. It was now no longer a problem."
In a nutshell, I think, no no.. I believe, that happiness is not something that was meant to be pursued but rather something that was meant to be maintained. It is temporary. But happiness is everywhere. You're just not looking hard enough. Be happy the you woke up this morning, be happy the sun is shinning, be happy you can actually see the sun. Then again, this is just my view on happiness. I don't know how you lot feel about it, but yea. I guess different people think differently. What I may think about happiness can or may seem like utter rubbish to you. But...... this is my blog so, too bad! Haha.
So, did Snow White, Cinderella and Chris Gardner 'live happily ever after'? I doubt it.
